Boundaries in action!

I spent the day with one of my four oldest friends, (besides Elle, but she's special). I was so pleased to see him setting boundaries while we enjoyed each others company. We were discussing an issue he's really worried about and then he said "Cail, I just can't talk about this. I thought I wanted to but I'm getting upset". It made me feel proud of him and not badly at all.

One of the reasons I struggle with boundaries is that I weigh the discomfort of the current situation against the unpleasantness of being yelled/ignored/guilted after I assert myself. I don't know where I learned this weird fear, but I often think that the person might lash out. Now that I know how a loving person will act (me), I know what the outcome should be after I stop a conversation in mid-point when it's unpleasant.

Whew, I need a break because I don't have a psych degree and that was heavy! Let's take a sidebar, shall we?

I'm drinking the best drink with my breakfast miso soup... hot water and lavender leaves! It's delicious, and all I did was throw 2 fresh lavender leaves into a hot cup of water. So simple and so lovely, it reminds me of Grandma Lavender. Have a splendid day!