One thing I thought on yesterday, were my standards of behaviour when it comes to tricky personal situations. I dislike conflict and I love when things feel good between people. Sometimes, this means that I could be more assertive when my needs are being trampled. This is especially important because I'm trying to melt cancer and it takes a lot of effort. Negative energy gets in the way of my goal. There are lots of examples of examples of negative energy but Kill reminded me that, in my life, I focus on the positives.
I think that people, when unkind, are mostly not aware that they've done it, so I've created a few sentences to help extract me from negative situations. Add a few, if you can!
3 comments:
I love it when you say "I'm just not that worried about it". I know it stops me in my tracks, and it seems to do that to others as well. I now use it too and it helps because the person realizes it is their self that is worried about it and not you! You especially need boundaries because there are so many people making suggestions and giving opinions about your illness and what you should do. (I am sure I fall into this category sometimes too.... sorry) I think you are doing great at setting boundaries, and have a knack for delivering the message nicely but definitely. Another of your many talents!
Hi Cailey, I'm enjoying your blog very much, thanks for sharing your ideas and thoughts.
Do you ever respond to people who want too much information from you with something like, "what makes you ask that question?" Or "my focus is on healing (or living well), not the negative aspects of this disease....let me tell you about my amazing lentil soup recipe!"
Happy day to you :)
Lisa, the old twist around response! Nice choice, I haven't used it but I bet it works. Mum, I didn't even realize that my usual response "I'm just not that worried about it" counted. That's great :)
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